I hesitate to post this.
But.
Um, you guys?
I think I might’ve gotten pregnant last night.
And I guess I’m really not ready for #2 because my first thought, when I figured it out, was FUCK.
And that was not a pun.
edited to add: We’re 99% confident that we want another baby. But I was thinking of maybe trying this summer, sometime in July or so. I was NOT thinking of a January ‘09 baby. There is no guarentee that I AM pregnant or WILL GET pregnant, our pitiful once-a-month sex just happened to fall on my most fertile day. Which I didn’t realize, since my cycle has gotten a little wonky in the past two months. Still, if this is it, if this is happening, we will love this baby and it will be OK. But until I know for sure, I reserve the right to say a few more fucks and oh gods and GAHs. Just writing it here made me calmer and a little more peaceful about whatever happens will happen.
And no, Alice, we don’t use protection around here. We’re married, we’re in baby bearing age/mode, and we don’t have sex often enough for us to warrant spending money on birth control methods. I haven’t been on birth control since July 05.
May 1, 2008 at 9:15 am
Um.
Uh oh.
May 1, 2008 at 9:22 am
It takes several hours for the “process” to complete. You can stop it if you want. Your OB has options. If you take steps in the next 2 days.
That sounds so callous, doesn’t it?
May 1, 2008 at 10:10 am
*GULP*
May 1, 2008 at 10:22 am
!!! i’m confused! do you think this because you can “feel” things “happening”? or because Steps Were Not Taken? also: eek! and maybe oh! and maybe wow! and also: yeah, totally Take Other Steps if that’s a better option right now.
May 1, 2008 at 10:42 am
I’m so curious… how do you know? Having never gone down that road I’m totally in the dark.
But, maybe it will be a good thing? Think about another little G running around!
May 1, 2008 at 11:09 am
Had to laugh. Welcome to my world.
May 1, 2008 at 11:32 am
Now Elizabeth, that’s not nice.
Moo, I have to say if you get preggo before me and you didn’t even mean to, I will be upset. Nine tubes of blood and a urine sample at the doctor’s office today just to start the process after 13 months of trying.
Anyway, keep us posted.
May 1, 2008 at 11:52 am
Oh crap. Quick go find out! Oh, I don’t think that’s an option yet. Well, in about 2 weeks you should be able to find out. Get a pee stick and have it ready.
Good luck!
May 1, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Grrl! All I can say is, that’s exactly what happened to me with Tyler, and he’s been the light of my life. I really didn’t want another baby (insert whiny uncertain voice there) but wasn’t really trying NOT to have another baby, and I cannot imagine my life with out that boy. CAN.NOT.
It’ll work out, either way. And you’ll have us. Surrogate aunts and grandmas.
May 1, 2008 at 1:44 pm
Well congratulations! Your doubts will fade. I dare say that if it turns out that you’re not, you may feel a wee bit disappointed when you find out. And I may be full of BS and you’ll do the happy dance, or sob uncontrollably, depending on the hormones.
May 1, 2008 at 3:29 pm
Sweetie, all 4 of mine came about that way. All will be well, I promise. And feel free to cuss your way thru the first trimester, and beyond, since it can always be blamed on hormones for those who disapprove of your “not-readiness”.
May 1, 2008 at 3:42 pm
Um, I can tell you the exact moment I got pregnant. It was the night that they started the FIRST Desert Storm war.
We’re here to listen – and to vent to. Happened to us all, I just didn’t have the wonderful group of blogladies to listen.
May 1, 2008 at 4:58 pm
I love a post that is titled Fuck, no matter what’s in it.
May 1, 2008 at 5:39 pm
Don’t freak out just yet! You don’t know yet if you are or not and you can’t spend the next couple of weeks freaking out about the unknown!
If you take that positive pregnancy test in a couple of weeks, then you can freak out. And then you will be okay… cuz what’s meant to be will ALWAYS find a way.
May 1, 2008 at 7:46 pm
No way! When I got knocked up with Sumo I had no idea I was preggo. None. I found out maybe 6 weeks in when I noticed it had “been a while” since I’d had a period. Yeah, well. I’m a little slow on the uptake.
The part about the pitiful once-a-month sex really REALLY made me laugh. I love that! Though with my husband in Iraq, I have less sex than you! But hell, when he’s here, who am I kidding? We’ll probably end up in the monthly club, too.
Well . . . good luck with whatever happens! And thanks for visiting my blog! I hope you’ll be back. I’ll be back to yours!
May 1, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Ok, I suck ass. I already told you last time “thanks for visiting my blog I hope you’ll be back.” But whatever – consider yourself doubly sucked up to in an effort to get new readers.
May 1, 2008 at 9:32 pm
I just started reading and it seems I picked an interesting time. Wow!
May 2, 2008 at 4:51 am
I’m with Hot, I knew the instant I had conceived. Each time. Wasn’t trying either. Then you get to have dreams about your baby.
May 2, 2008 at 10:15 am
Mine was the “I don’t think I’m fertile, but you check the mucus”..”you’re probably okay”..”you sure?”..”it’ll be fine” –otherwise known as an OOPS. (so you prefer one 4 letter word, but that’s my word and I’m stickin’ to it!)
After I realized I was “late” it took me DAYS to get up the courage to buy the pregnancy test, and I was worried and cried when I told my dh. (He just smiled and said, “I was wondering…”)
But y’know what? My motto is now “Everyone needs an OOPS.” Because #4 is the sweetest, lovingest, best thing that could have happened. He truly completes our family, and when my dh retires and our OOPS is still in middle school, dh is totally going to enjoy the extra time he can spend with him. He’s a great kid and we’re blessed to have him.
May 2, 2008 at 12:12 pm
You can say Fuck as many times as you want. One of my most-used words, although I had to change it to ‘frick’ when my daughter started talking. Now I hear her in her room playing, ‘Frickety Frick!’
May 4, 2008 at 6:54 pm
Ohhh…I have had one (or more) of these moments….the good news is you are 99% sure you want to anyway….so, maybe, just maybe, it will be January instead of April. Keep us updated!
May 5, 2008 at 3:02 pm
Well, whatever happens is meant to happen for a reason, right?